At St. Elizabeth’s, we believe that strength isn’t just about being tough—it’s about knowing who we are, what lights us up inside, and how we bring joy, care, and creativity to the world around us. But during times of stress—whether it’s juggling schedules, managing big feelings, or responding to events in the world—it can be easy to lose sight of those strengths, both in ourselves and in each other.

This month, our faculty and staff took part in a reflective activity called the Mirror and Spotlight exercise. It reminded us how important it is to pause, reflect, and affirm not only our own gifts but also those of the people we work and live with every day. We thought you might enjoy trying a version of this with your child at home. It’s a powerful way to build connection, confidence, and compassion.

Part 1: The Mirror—Self-Reflection

Start by thinking about and writing or drawing your responses to the questions below. You can do this at the dinner table, in the car, during a walk, or as part of bedtime.

My Spark  
What is something I do with joy and ease that other people might find hard?  
(Example: Helping someone feel better, solving a tricky puzzle, being a good friend.)

My Strengths in Action  
Can you think of a time this year when you felt proud or "in your zone"? What were you doing? What helped you feel that way?  
(Example: Teaching something to someone, finishing a project, solving a conflict, making something new.)

My Impact  
What do I hope other people feel when they are around me? What do I hope they learn from me?
(Example: I want people to feel calm, seen, inspired, happy, challenged.)

Part 2: The Spotlight – Sharing and Affirming Each Other

Now, take turns with your child, or pair children with siblings or trusted adults. One person will be the “Spotlight,” and the other will be the “Witness.”

Instructions:
1. The “Spotlight” shares their reflections from Part 1.
2. The Witness listens closely, and then responds with affirmations like:
   One strength I see in you is…
   Something you bring to our family/class/friends that makes a difference is…
   You shine when you…
3. After five minutes, switch roles so everyone gets a chance to shine.

This simple practice is a gift. It reminds us—and teaches our children—that we are more than the mistakes we make or the challenges we face. We each carry unique strengths that make our families and communities better.

Try it this week, and let us know what you notice. You might just find yourself—and your child—standing a little taller.

Best foot forward,

Adriana Murphy
Head of School